Love..?

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The Oxford Dictionary defines love as a strong feeling of affection.  

Over decades people have fall in and out of love and relationships have come and go.  There are billions of love songs, poems, books and definitions and still there is so much more to say about it.

This topic raises so many questions in my mind.  Below some questions which popped into my mind as well as my personal opinions.

·         Is love the same as caring about someone or is it only part of it? 

Love is caring for someone but so much more.   If you truly love someone you will do anything for that person.  You will put his/her needs before your own.

·         Can you fall in and out of love or can you only truly love once? 

I think that you can love more than one person in your lifetime but that you can only truly love ones.

·         Is there something as true love? 

Today it is harder to find, but I do still believe that there is something as true love.  I also though believe that you grow into this feeling and that it takes hard work, communication and trust.

·         Is there really a lid for every pot?

I do not feel that there is only one specific person for everyone.  It is all about compromising.  There are a lot of factors influencing whether a relationship can work or not.   

·         How do you know when you love someone?

You will just know.

I do not think that there is one definition which can explain what love is.  It is a feeling to which each person must have the freedom to attach their own connotations to.

Please comment and say what you think and feel about this topic and questions!

It is a poor idea to lie to yourself

Don’t we all lie to ourselves?  The question is why?  I will say that the main reason why we lie is to protect ourselves.  Think about it for a second…  When was the last time you lied to yourself?  Why did you lie to yourself? 

We get so use to lying to ourselves that we start to believe it.  We only confuse ourselves. 

Even though we think we protect ourselves by lying we are actually just screwing ourselves and making it worse.

Know who you are!

The truth will always be in the back of our minds and some or other time we will have to deal with it whether we want to or not!

If we are honest with ourselves from the beginning we will feel so much happier, careless, free and able to live our lives to the fullest.

Try it and feel the difference!

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The green monster..

I am sure all of us are well aware of this monster.  He creeps up on us and gives us a terrible feeling.  I hate the feeling of being jealous!  I will rather feel angry or sad or confused than jealous! 

We all are guilty of being jealous and we all have been the cause of making someone else jealous.  Most of the time we won't even be aware of it.  But what cause us to get jealous?  The main reason in my opinion is if we feel that a valuable relationship is in jeopardy.   Another reason is when someone else achieves or has something that we want.

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The million dollar question is how to poison and get rid of this green monster?  I don’t think we will ever be able to get rid of it, but we can learn to control it.  We need to rise above the situation which makes 

us jealous.  

Make sure you have valid reasons for being jealous.  If not, get over it.   Love yourself for who you are.  Do not constantly compare yourself with others!  We all are unique and special just the way we are.  No one will ever be able to be a better ‘you’ than yourself.  So why live in someone else’s shadow?  You cannot force anyone to like you. 

Is jealousy really worth destroying yourself?  Remember that no matter how hard you work there will always be someone better and worse in what you do!

The sound of one hand clapping.

This phrase may raise some questions like whether there is a sound when only one hand claps.  Try it.  It is possible to only clap with one hand and it does make a sound.

We all tend to put ourselves in boxes.  We decide what and how we want to see or hear the things around us and block out everything else.   We look at life the way we want to see it. 

In life and especially in Public Relations we need to think outside of our little box.  We need to see things in different shades of light and consider all the factors.

It is not something which comes naturally and you do need to practise to be able to start looking at things differently.  You will see and hear things which you never saw or heard before.

 In Public Relations we learn to look at a situation in so many ways to be able to identify all the possible barriers and outcomes.

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Try to hear the sound of one hand clapping and you will discover a whole new world.

Not all who wander are lost.

Sometimes in life we all wander.  It does not mean that we are lost though.  Life is a journey.  Even though some of us plan every step of the way the chance that something may occur which will put you completely of your course is very good.  Then you will have to find a new destination and path to get there.

What make life so interesting for me are all the different people on this planet.  Everyone is completely unique.  Some people will start to just wander around if nothing works out for them, while others will know exactly where they are going all the time

Even though I think I know where I am going I must still consider the fact that anything can happen which might change that.  We also grow as people the more experienced we get.  Think about it.  You will not possibly still have the same goals in life since you were 5 years old.  Today most people will end up in a completely different profession than what they studied.  I wandered around for 19 years before I realised what my goal and passion in life was.  And you know what is strange now that I am almost finally there where I thought I wanted to be I am not so sure anymore.

Still I believe that I am exactly where I am supposed to be.

This is me..

I am totally going wild this time.  I believe we do not live for ourselves but for each other.  I do not have to pretend because I am proud of who I am and what I have achieved thus far. Every little thing that happened in my past made me the person who I am today and therefore I am not regretting anything.  I enjoy learning more about myself every day.   I never thought about becoming a regular blogger, but now I am addicted.  It is so much fun having a place where you can go to escape and just write about anything that comes to your mind.

I am really blessed with a wonderful family – Dad, mom, sister and little brother.  I love them with all my heart.  My girlfriends are everything to me and I add great value to each one of them.  I also have a newly boyfriend which I am totally in love with.

I grew up in a small town called Sabie in the Province Mpumalanga - South Africa.  I was a cheerful child, always laughing and having fun.  It was amazing growing up between mountains surrounded by thousands of trees. 

Will this day matter in five years?

This day will probably not matter in five years time, but the decisions you make will matter.  We are faced with all sorts of choices every single day. 

Every choice we make has consequences just like throwing a pebble into a pond makes ripples.   Every choice we make has far reaching effects. The choices you have made got you right here where you are today and every choice you make today will have an effect on your future.  

But what does five years from now matter anyway?  We need to live for today!  Since I was little the only thing I wanted to do was to ‘one day’ change people’s lives.  A few weeks ago I realised that today is ‘one day’.   I cannot wait for ‘one day’ to do things I still want to do in my life, then I will die feeling unsattisfied with my life.  I do not need to start an orphanage or feed a whole neighbourhood to change someone’s live. I can actually do that by doing small things every day!


Therefore think about the consequences before making a choice, but still live today as if it is your last.

   

How do you step from the top of a 100-foot pole?

My answer will be close your eyes and just jump! 

Have you ever climbed up something and when you finally got to the top you were too scared to climb down or jump.    It felt like you needed to step from a 100-foot pole.

Life is full of crossroads and all of them have bumps, hills and gutters, some just more than others.  You can decide which road you want to take.  Some will take the easier and wider but longer road while others will take the short, narrow and difficult road.

Sometime we choose the difficult and shorter road, but when we get to the top we are too scared to go down and need to take a decision to just jump or to turn back and admit that we have made a mistake.  Time to time we need to admit that we have made a mistake and chose the wrong road, but if we plan properly and know what we are capable of before we make a choice this will not be necessary.  If we get all the way to the top why don’t we just jump?  At the end it will be worth it even though we were scared.

Even though I have never done it I think of it as parachuting.  You make a decision and decide to do it.  You get into the plain but when you get to the exact height to jump you are too scared.  You have wasted your time and money if you go down without jumping.  If you jump you will probably have the time of your life.

Sometime we just need to close our eyes and jump and we will be amazed by the feeling and satisfaction we will get.